But, habitual and automatic patterns might also have our mindset framed as, "I will be better when I'm on the other side of this."

We accept this state of mind, and we often use it to help us cope- with an overbearing project at work, with a tough run, with a too-long visit from in-laws...

Perhaps we do this even in full chapters of life- a job that isn't well suited, a disagreeable teenager, a home in need of repair...