Love in the Little Big Things.

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Jun 4

“There are some things you don't learn about yourself until you let someone else into the most intimate places of your heart.”
– Kiera Cass

Episode 48.

Love in the Little Big Things.

The little things. Are the big things.
The real things. The meaningful things. The connecting things.
Reaching for a hand. Keeping eye contact. Pressing pause to listen. Putting the phone down to hear. Noticing. Remembering. Learning. Seeing.

Beyond our primitive human desires- food, sex, shelter- one of our deepest longings is to be seen. To be heard. To be safe in connection. We don’t need life to be made easier or to avoid struggle; we don’t need someone to take away pain or to fix it; just to see it. To hear our words and to bear witness to what we have walked through. And having seen our truth, to say, “I see you and I bet on you.” To have someone say that- it is belonging, it is safety; it grounds us in security so we can pursue our truth, so we can dream bigger, so we can live higher.

These notions of seeing and hearing and connecting- they are Love. And we have proof that we cannot extricate ourselves from love...we are damaged by love, betrayed by love, yet we wake up and want to give love and be loved. This is powerful evidence that we are not evolving to be less emotionally drawn to love, but intrinsically bound to love.

I am re-reading Viktor Frankl’s “A Man’s Search for Meaning”, a compelling book of suffering and resilience, a true experience in motivation to find the meaning of life, with Love at the core. Poignant pages detailed within the Nazi concentration camp, Auschwitz, Frankl was forced to explore his beliefs right down to their core. He states, “For the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth – that Love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love.” Viktor Frankl, through knowing this truth in Love, was a free man, even within the severe confines of a concentration camp.

Love matters so much because it heals, it motivates, it protects, it connects, it aligns, and it frees us from suffering. Love with a capital L- is one of Being- it is your very existence, rather than an emotion or a thing. This transformational Love has the capacity to shift political agendas, mend social catastrophes, repair broken homes, heal the deepest wounds.

We can look at the most driving measures of success in life, and when they are achieved without someone to love, they are deemed failures. Why? Because deep down, we are moved by the little things; the meaningful things; the connecting things. We are in it for the share. Because humans long to be more fully alive; and we feel alive when we know love, connection, meaning, and belonging.

Little things. Big things. Don’t miss them. Love.

Love Bigger,
Jessica